So you want to fix your life?
Sounds easier said than done. But really, it just requires time, focus, and a plan. Having the desire to fix your life is the first step – this could be the day that everything changes for you.
I want to encourage you to take this time to fully place your attention on this video. Put your phone out of sight and out of mind and grant yourself permission to take this time for yourself and your wellbeing. You matter!
We live in a fast paced world – it’s go, go, go all the time. Get up early and go to the gym, go get coffee, go make a healthy breakfast, go to work, go call that family member, go to that class on the weekend, go to the dinner party…And if you can’t keep up with the quickness in which we all seem to now live our lives, you (or someone you know) may be viewing you as lazy. But could it really just be that you’re overstimulated? With so much to keep up with, how could you not be overstimulated?
When you hear or feel that you’re being lazy, it can sting. This isn’t a desirable trait and it can mean that you lack any drive, motivation or passion for the things in your life. But if that perceived trait is really just a symptom of overstimulation, it changes everything.
Have you ever felt stuck, lost or overwhelmed in life? If so, you’re not alone. Some research shows that up to 75% of people have felt that way at one time or another.
When best selling author and speaker, Timber Hawkeye, realized he needed to make a big change in his life, he did some serious thinking about what he needed to do. He had been living a traditional life in Corporate America, with plenty of success and material possessions, including designer clothes and a sports car. But inside, he just knew something wasn’t right.
Start here: Browse the Self-Improvement Guides and pick the path that fits your situation.
“No.”
It’s a simple word. Powerful too. Yet it is often met with a less-than warm reception. There are many people who say “yes” to most things thrown their way, often in fear of saying “no.”
In reality, saying “no” isn’t anything other than being assertive. Not abrasive, confrontational, or anything in between. It’s an important but small part of assertive communication. Mastering it means to know your boundaries and communicate them in an effective, non-confrontational manner. If you don’t honour your boundaries, then you are giving someone else the opportunity to take advantage of you. By setting and enforcing what you’re comfortable with, whether that’s in your work, social, or personal life, you form your character and establish a social image (even if the social circle itself is small).
Start here: Browse the Self-Improvement Guides and pick the path that fits your situation.
Imagine yourself sitting in a room filled with all kinds of things that cover all of the bookshelves, furniture, and floors. A small table in front of you is scattered with stacks of magazines and digital devices, like a laptop, phone, and ipad.
Now try another scenario, but this time imagine sitting in a room that is clear of clutter. The shelves contain personal items that are meaningful to you. The floor is clear and clean, and the small table in front of you has only a vase of flowers and a book that you’re currently reading.
Start here: Browse the Self-Improvement Guides and pick the path that fits your situation.
“You idiot”
“Why did I do that?!”
“How did I get here?”
The things we say to ourselves matter. Even if you have people around you describe who you are and compliment your traits, if you don’t believe them, none of it matters. After all, no one is going to steer your ship for you – the person you want to be is a product of the actions you take and the choices you make.
Think of it this way. A car needs your hands at the wheel. Without your input, it will veer out of control. Your identity, and subsequently your future, require your hands at the wheel. Otherwise, you may end up feeling like you’re stuck living a life that isn’t yours, straying down a path you never intended to take.
Start here: If procrastination is the problem, begin with the Procrastination Guide (then come back to this post).
“You’ve got to wake up every morning with determination if you’re going to go to bed with satisfaction.” — George Horace Lorimer
Procrastination isn’t a character flaw. It’s a system problem. Build a better system, and delay stops winning.
Most people don’t lose to laziness. They lose to drift. They open a tab. They take a “quick” scroll. They tend to a dozen low-stakes fires and call it a day. The cost of this is compounding regret, stalled income and fragile confidence.
“First say to yourself what you would be and then do what you have to do.” – Epictetus
You don’t escape mediocrity by accident.
You do it on purpose.
Most people drift. They consume. They wait for motivation.
But you will not.
You’ll choose a different path, one boring, deliberate day at a time.
What if I told you that achieving your most ambitious goals can be simpler than you think? If you believe that big goals are harder to achieve than smaller ones, you may be underestimating yourself.
The truth is that making big things happen doesn’t have to be an overwhelming task. For example, if you were wanting to get a new job to make more money and improve your lifestyle, it wouldn’t help to settle for the first job you came across. What steps would you take to create the outcome you’re hoping for? It all comes down to having a clear vision of what you want, having a plan of how to get there, and not giving up.
Comfort. Let’s think about that for a second. Don’t get it twisted, comfort feels wonderful. It’s reassuring, safe, and protective. A comfortable evening is predictable, but in a good way. You know what you’re getting. Now, that’s great, but say you repeat that pattern, repeatedly. You choose comfort every day and night. That safety net isn’t just present, it completely wraps around your life.
Soon, the comfort can begin to feel too soft. Suddenly, it’s too hard to get up. Comfort is wonderful and necessary in all of our lives, but not wholly. Like everything, balance is needed. Discomfort – often in the form of truths you don’t want to hear – is essential in your journey to success, whatever that may look like.
